About Me

Hi there! Thanks for visiting Christianmarriagementor.com!

I’m Joel, (the one on the right), with my wife, Karen. This picture is a favorite of mine because we look like such a happy couple.

But that wasn’t always the case.

Eight years into our marriage, my wife Karen almost left me. At the time, I was frustrated, hurt, and angry. I couldn’t understand her desire to leave and actually thought she was crazy. Looking back, I realize that there were just some key truths I was missing.

Does this sound familiar?

Maybe you’re in a similar situation right now. If you’ve felt like giving up or maybe your spouse is ready to walk away–you’ve come to the right place! If you’re saying, “I’ll do whatever it takes to save my marriage,” or, “Help me save my marriage from divorce!” I really believe I can help you!

But first, let me go back to my own near marriage train wreck. Through hours of discussion, I learned a few things that saved my marriage. I learned that I didn’t understand my wife’s love language. I learned that I didn’t understand her motivation. I learned that her primary needs as a woman were being neglected and so were my primary needs as a man. I had to come face-to-face with the hardest, yet most critical challenge–the “missing ingredient”–for most marriages and commit to pursue it.

I prayed, I worked at it, I committed to these things and eventually, it worked. I’ll never forget the day she walked up to me in the kitchen, grabbed me by the arms and said, “You really DO love me…don’t you! And I love you too!”

We’ve never looked back…but we have looked forward and committed ourselves to helping other couples. People just like you! We’re not perfect and we still have our struggles and battles. But we know what to do now…and it works!

What can we offer your marriage?

Karen and I have been married for more than 32 years now. In addition to our personal journey, I’ve been a pastoral couples counselor for more than 25 years and Karen is now a School Psychologist. We’ve both been certified to use and train others in the use of Prepare-Enrich, the number one couples inventory and coaching system in the world. I’ve also authored the book, “The Crucified Couple,” designed to share what I believe is the missing key to marital happiness–the one thing most struggling couples lack.

We’ve taught marriage coaching to well over 100 professional clergy, counselors, and mentors. We’ve helped hundreds of couples come to peace and learn better communication, conflict resolution, intimacy, budgeting, and other skills. We’ve helped couples who had just started dating and wanted to “get off on the right foot.” We’ve helped many more who had been married for years–some for decades–and needed to save their marriage from divorce. I speak at conferences and we’ve done couples workshops and retreats for years. I’m an ordained minister, and be both have graduate degrees in our field.

But now, we’ve created this website to share what we’ve learned in a broader way. Our goal is to post information and suggest programs and products that can bless you and your spouse. We would love to hear from you and help wherever we can. If you’d like to contact us, please email office@christianmarriagementor.com and we’ll get back to you soon.


Pastor Joel